thehiddenpleasureempireWhen it comes to discussing my fantasies with men I’ve just met, I tend to keep things under wraps. Sure, we can flirt and banter about naughty topics, but revealing what truly excites me is a different story. There are reasons for my discretion.
In past experiences, I’ve tried to introduce snippets of my fantasies into conversations, thinking it might foster deeper connections. However, I quickly learned that sharing even a hint of my desires often led to misunderstandings. My partners would jump to conclusions, assuming that just because I mentioned something I liked, it was an open invitation to act on it immediately—without even checking in with me first.
This pattern has been frustrating. It’s as if the moment I express an interest, the conversation gets lost, and suddenly my boundaries are disregarded. It’s not just about what’s said; it’s about understanding the nuances of consent and communication.
For me, discussing my fantasies doesn’t equate to wanting to explore them right away or with anyone without clear consent. Both partners need to engage in a dialogue that prioritizes listening and understanding. If you hear me say, “I like this,” it doesn’t mean you have the green light to dive in without a conversation first.
In essence, let’s take the time to communicate openly and respectfully. It’s not just about what excites us; it’s about building trust and ensuring we’re both on the same page before exploring new territories together.
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Listening and paying attention to what people say are extremely important parts in communication. Most times we only want to act on what we think we are hearing. Thank you very much for this lesson.