thehiddenpleasureempireWhen it comes to relationships, there are certain aspects that are non-negotiable for many people. For me, those aspects include the ability to use a washing machine and access social media and some other stuff I won’t be going into today. So, when my ex-boyfriend proposed to me and I realized that he would not allow me to do either of those things, I knew that I had to reject his proposal. In this blog post, I will share my story and explain why those two things were so important to me and are the main reason for rejecting the ring.
The Proposal
My ex-boyfriend and I had been dating for about a year when he proposed to me. At first, I was thrilled. I had always imagined myself getting married and spending my life with someone I loved. However, as we started discussing the details of our future life together, I began to realize that we had very different ideas about what that life would look like.
One of the first things he told me was that he did not believe in using washing machines. He said that they were a waste of water and electricity and that he preferred to wash all of his clothes by hand. At first, I thought he was joking, but he was dead serious. He even went so far as to say that he expected me to do the same if we were to get married, I expressed myself letting him know I barely wash my own clothes and I’m not cut off for that, ah oga wasn’t having it and went on to tell me that it’s a woman’s job to wash her husbands clothe and his mum did it for years without complaining.
Why Washing Machines are Important to Me
I understand that some people may prefer to wash their clothes by hand for environmental or personal reasons. However, for me, using a washing machine is not just a convenience, it is a necessity. Washing clothes by hand would be painful and potentially damaging to my hand and nails, and I easily get tired, I even offered that we give it to a laundry man and he refused and said it was my job as a woman and a wife.
When I explained this to my ex-boyfriend, he was unsympathetic. He said that if I loved him, I would be willing to make sacrifices for him, even if it meant harming my own health.
The Social Media Issue
As if the washing machine issue wasn’t bad enough, my ex-boyfriend also had a problem with social media. He believed that it was a waste of time and that people who used it were shallow and superficial. He forbade me from using any social media platforms and said that if we were to get married, he expected me to delete all of my accounts.
Why Social Media is Important to Me
As someone who works in the creative industry, social media is an essential part of my job. It is where I connect with potential clients, showcase my work, and stay up-to-date with the latest trends and news. I use social media for all my business, i use it to communicate with clients all over the world, its how I make my consultation happen and how am able to coach individuals and couples who live far away from me. Additionally, social media is a way for me to connect with friends and family who live far away. Without social media, I would feel incredibly isolated and maybe disconnected from the world.
When I explained this to my ex-boyfriend, he accused me of being addicted to social media and said that I needed to learn to live without it. He said that if we were to get married, I would need to choose between my job and my relationship.
Why I Rejected His Proposal
As much as I loved my ex-boyfriend, I knew that I could not live without a washing machine or social media, I couldn’t see myself washing clothes with my hands for years and I didn’t even see myself closing down my social media accounts and saying goodbye to my business to become a housewive. These were not just minor preferences, they were essential parts of my life. I realized that if I were to marry him, I would be sacrificing my physical and emotional well-being for the sake of his beliefs.
When I told him that I could not accept his proposal, he was angry and hurt. He accused me of being selfish and said that I was putting my own needs above the needs of our relationship. However, I knew that rejecting his proposal was the best thing for both of us, I dropped the ring for him on his table, packed my bags, and took the exit doors It allowed me to prioritize my own health and happiness, and it allowed him to find someone who shared his beliefs.
Conclusion
Rejecting my ex-boyfriend’s proposal was an easy decision, and it was the right one. It taught me the importance of standing up for myself and my beliefs, even if it meant disappointing someone I loved. Ultimately, I realized that a relationship cannot survive if one person is forced to sacrifice their own well-being for the sake of the other. I hope that by sharing my story, I can inspire others to prioritize their own needs and stand up for what they believe in.
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